那一年, 我似乎特别的不顺心。
一个人在黑暗中，孤独和悲伤， 没有人跟我说话，也没有人听我说话。
我一直在想，如果我就这样死了，是不是······也永远不会有人知道？会有人为我举行葬礼，为我哭泣吗？
这个时候，有了一点点的变化，那一夜，有人打电话来。
“喂？”我努力地装出快乐的声音。
“······ ”电话那一头停了好久，然后迟疑地有了一点点声音，我甚至可以想象出来那是怎样的一个柔柔怯怯的女孩子，“我······我不认识你，可是······”她又停了好一会儿，“我······我······我可以跟你说话吗？”
她又轻轻地加上一句保证：“我不会说很久的，······我······我不太说话的。”
我当然可以，因为我知道一个人是一种什么样的感觉――没有人依靠你，自然你也无法依靠任何人。没有朋友，可悲的是，连敌人也没有。快乐也好，悲伤也罢，不会有人关心。就象――
处于绝对的真空中，令人窒息。
“好的，”我很快地回答她，居然有一种想流泪的冲动，“我也好想听人说说话。”
显然这句话给了她很大的帮助，她的声音听上去很喜悦：“谢谢你······ ”又脆又柔的声线就象风中飘过的铃，好象风再大一点就会碎掉，“我······我的身体一起都不太好······妈妈爸爸很辛苦······他们没空跟我说话······我的病很重，我知道的······可是我还是想要活下去······”
我想那一定是个披着柔柔长发的女孩，她一定有着天使一样温柔的脸，一定有一副钢铁一样坚强的眼睛。
“你知道吗？可以走路真好······我以前也可以走路的，也可以跑，也可以跳······以前不觉得有什么大不了······ ”
我现在也依然那么觉得，我甚至曾经祈祷过，让我失去手，失去脚，失去什么都无所谓，只求能够换来一个可以依靠，可以软弱的有父母的家。
“我······我很想哭······”她的声音有一点哽咽，“可是······大脑里的瘤已经压迫到那神经了······我哭不出眼泪了······”
可是我还能，我从来不知道流泪的感觉能那么好。
“······我不知道你的电话号码······”她喘了口气，“我的 手还能动······可是头没法转了······我就胡乱拨了一个号码······我试过几个号码了······他们挂了我的电话······可是你听我说了这么多话······你······你是一个很好很好的人······”
我忍不住无声地哭泣，我并不是天生软弱的人，只是觉得天意不公正！天意不公正！
我压抑着自己，对她说：“或者，你可以把你的电话号码给我，以后每天这个时候，我就打电话听你说话，好不好？”
她的声音里有好多好多的惊喜：“你······你真是一个好人······我知道······你一定是一个最好最好的人······”
我说：“我不是医生，可是，你知道，我相信奇迹······”
那个女孩子小小的声音：“我不知道奇迹······可是我知道你不会骗我的······因为你是一个好人······”
挂上电话，我忍不住哭泣。奇迹！我从不相信奇迹，在我大大小小所有的梦想幻灭以后，我早已不相信神灵。然而此时此刻，我又多么希望那种神秘的力量能够听到祈祷的声音。
第二天晚上，我打电话过去，是一个成年女子接的电话，一刹那，我不知道自己该说什么，因为我甚至没有问那个女孩子的名字。
而对方却猜测地说：“你是不是昨天跟卫儿通电话的那个人？”
我应了一声，问：“她睡了吗？”
对方抽泣的声音：“她睡了，她不会再痛苦了。”
我乍的一惊，那位悲伤的母亲开始哭泣：“那个孩子命苦，治不了的病······连走的时候也痛苦······也许不应该生她来受苦的······也许应该早点放弃，让她免受那么多苦······可是，我······我一心巴望着她能留在身边啊······就算是痛苦······也许会有奇迹啊！其实本来就应该早点放弃的！！可是她一直笑·····一直笑·····”
世界上的事情就是这样，你希望一个人得到幸福的时候，自己却偏偏是幸福的最大障碍。结果，令人不幸福的，正是你希望对方幸福的那种努力。
“喂？喂？”对方努力忍泪的声音，“这位小姐，你一定得把你的电话号码留给我们， 卫儿说――
‘那个大姐姐也很悲伤，她一定也很寂寞，我知道，我觉得她一直在哭，可是没有人听到。妈妈，如果我不在了，请你跟她通通电话，她一定也没有要跟他说话的那个人，她一定也没有办法哭，说不定也生病了。’
这位小姐，我们卫儿······ ”
我挂上电话，第一次打开寓所的窗，冬天的空气很冷酷，可是月亮居然给我很温柔的目光，一定是那个死去的孩子回到月亮的上面去了，所以生了病的月亮的光也能给人温暖的感觉。
从未见过的那个人，以后也永远没有可能再见到的那个人，为什么可以看到她在天空中对我微微地笑，以至于我也学习着开始smile？
（很感人的文章，至少我觉得。。。）
Saturday, July 19, 2008
永远忘不了她
生活就像一张网，捕捉了各种的事！奇妙的爱情也是漫天飞，缀人心扉，痛不欲生！
有个男孩，在一次北京夏令营中，他在火车上无意碰到了一位天仙活泼的女孩，她笑起来有如一朵灿烂之花。当时，男孩就对她很有好感，并从好朋友口中得知这为可爱的女孩---多么好听的名字：梁铭欣！
他做梦也没有想到，欣竟是和他同校的女生，他在高兴之余，希望在火车上时时都能看到欣，因为，欣笑起来真的太美了！情感触动着他，他总是找借口到隔壁车厢玩，从而，“探望”他心中的天使！他不敢太过分，只是躲在角落，偷偷地注视着欣，欣发现了一个男孩在不停看自己，也望了过去，突然，一双水灵灵的大眼睛令男孩刹间愣住了，他也是望着女孩，仅仅1分钟，两人就对视了1分钟，男孩终于低下了头去。欣接着很惊讶地微笑问：有什么事吗？男孩已脸红得像个苹果，飞一般“逃”出了车厢！
回到床上后，男孩的脸始终还是那么红！当然，欣不知道怎么一回事，也不会当作什么，继续在那边和同学们说笑！男孩被刚才欣的突然对视吓得心神不定，他想：她会想些什么吗？我不敢去那车厢了……
直到熬了一个漫长的下午，男孩终于鼓起勇气再次过去。但是，这一次，男孩只是坐在最高的地方，他怕被欣发现。
后来，夏令营的队伍到了酒店，男孩也为此见不到欣而着急，幸好碾转从同学那里得来欣房号，他很想拿起话筒，然后拨通想讲些什么？但是，说什么好呢？一时之间，男孩只好继续犹豫，或许，他想等到时机再成熟点在说吧！接下来的第二天，本来男孩最想攀登的万里长城也没心情去理了，大家都在游玩，有说有笑，只有男孩在寻找欣，皇天不负有心人，在烈日下，男孩发现了欣的踪影，顿时很高兴，但又突然失望，不敢靠近，生怕被欣看到。可惜，另一个多事的男孩却没有良心地大声喊叫：嘿，看那边，有个小伙子在看你啦！男孩被他指得赶快低头 一溜烟地跑了！
接下来的几天，男孩根本没有心情去游山玩水，他也未敢去接近欣，可是，男孩已心急得快要疯了！他没做什么？但求能和欣交个朋友！在这夏令营的五天里，男孩是那么那么地想着欣！
终于，男孩等到了归途的火车，不过，他想：在这剩余的两天，我一定要好好把握，我不求什么，只想认识这位可爱的女生--欣！
在一次午饭后，男孩在同学们的怂恿下，硬着头皮，红着脸去找欣，在内心磨蹭下：梁铭欣同学，我觉得你人品很好，又天真可爱，我很喜欢你，你能和我交个朋友吗？……
当时，也许男孩太心急，太冲动，什么都说了，欣却不认为他在说内心话。没想到，平时好说好笑的欣结结巴巴地说：对不起，我不能和你交朋友！说玩就立刻转身走了！男孩足足愣了十几分钟，但他回去后也没说什么，他根本就没想到，自己最喜欢的女孩子会这样说，他也不知道接着该做些什么，或者什么也不用做，他迷惘了……
剩下在火车的时间，男孩也没有再去找女孩了！
多个月后的一个晚上，男孩再也忍不住思念欣的痛苦，他篡磨了很久，认为上次太唐突，再来向欣说一次。
他终于再次拨了号码……“嘀嘀嘀”，男孩的心情越来越紧张……通了……
梁铭欣，你好，还记得我吗？我是……其实，我没有别的要求，只是想和做很普通很普通的朋友，没另外的意思，你可以答应我吗……
呵呵——电话中传来甜甜的笑声，嗯，当然可以啦，我很乐意交朋友的……再见啦！3166……
意外的收获令男孩高兴得一蹦三尺高，他兴奋得连续几晚也睡不着！
但是，世上好景会有留给人们多久呢？男孩整天都在思念欣，想象她在笑时的样子……
一个星期六的晚上，欣说她和同学们要练舞蹈，叫男孩也去看看。男孩当然高兴死啦！刚洗完澡就赶去了，到达的时间还提前了许多，以为他想：既然大家是朋友，不能让她等我咯！短暂的十几分钟在男孩看来就想度日如年，他就在这些时间里想等会儿见到欣应该说些什么，但想来想去也不知道怎么才好？
欣来到了，男孩很高兴的笑着说：你来啦！
欣依然是那么大方，她把男孩领进屋里，很热情的招待了他，他们也说了好一阵，知道练习跳舞的人来了，男孩才依依不舍的离开！就是因为这次，欣竟在第3天后提出和那个男孩绝交！男孩也没话可说，也不想问究竟为什么会这样？或许，欣不喜欢他吧！男孩居然也不哭，只是伤心，后来由伤心变成一股动力……
男孩这样想：做不成朋友是我倒霉，但是，我要从此要发奋图强，让欣看看我要的是实际行动！
想不到，一次的失落竟让男孩的成绩大大提高，人品也比原来好很多了！看着自己实现了实际，暗暗高兴，
但是，另一边收来了不好的消息！原来一直很纯洁的欣，转学以后，加上校风不很好，她彻底地被腐蚀了。男孩很痛心，但因为中学学习紧张，他也没办法，也没见过欣了，真的不知道欣现在已经怎么样了？
她应该还好吧！身体怎么样？学习呢？心情愉快吧！
计算起来，男孩应该也有半年没见过欣了，他们的城市只有几平方公里呀，难道天就要捉弄人？男孩直到现在也没有爱过第二个女孩，他依然是疯狂地挂念着欣，永远也忘不了她！
（现实中真的有那么长情的男孩吗？基本上，我并不太相信。。毕竟，现实是残酷的。。）
有个男孩，在一次北京夏令营中，他在火车上无意碰到了一位天仙活泼的女孩，她笑起来有如一朵灿烂之花。当时，男孩就对她很有好感，并从好朋友口中得知这为可爱的女孩---多么好听的名字：梁铭欣！
他做梦也没有想到，欣竟是和他同校的女生，他在高兴之余，希望在火车上时时都能看到欣，因为，欣笑起来真的太美了！情感触动着他，他总是找借口到隔壁车厢玩，从而，“探望”他心中的天使！他不敢太过分，只是躲在角落，偷偷地注视着欣，欣发现了一个男孩在不停看自己，也望了过去，突然，一双水灵灵的大眼睛令男孩刹间愣住了，他也是望着女孩，仅仅1分钟，两人就对视了1分钟，男孩终于低下了头去。欣接着很惊讶地微笑问：有什么事吗？男孩已脸红得像个苹果，飞一般“逃”出了车厢！
回到床上后，男孩的脸始终还是那么红！当然，欣不知道怎么一回事，也不会当作什么，继续在那边和同学们说笑！男孩被刚才欣的突然对视吓得心神不定，他想：她会想些什么吗？我不敢去那车厢了……
直到熬了一个漫长的下午，男孩终于鼓起勇气再次过去。但是，这一次，男孩只是坐在最高的地方，他怕被欣发现。
后来，夏令营的队伍到了酒店，男孩也为此见不到欣而着急，幸好碾转从同学那里得来欣房号，他很想拿起话筒，然后拨通想讲些什么？但是，说什么好呢？一时之间，男孩只好继续犹豫，或许，他想等到时机再成熟点在说吧！接下来的第二天，本来男孩最想攀登的万里长城也没心情去理了，大家都在游玩，有说有笑，只有男孩在寻找欣，皇天不负有心人，在烈日下，男孩发现了欣的踪影，顿时很高兴，但又突然失望，不敢靠近，生怕被欣看到。可惜，另一个多事的男孩却没有良心地大声喊叫：嘿，看那边，有个小伙子在看你啦！男孩被他指得赶快低头 一溜烟地跑了！
接下来的几天，男孩根本没有心情去游山玩水，他也未敢去接近欣，可是，男孩已心急得快要疯了！他没做什么？但求能和欣交个朋友！在这夏令营的五天里，男孩是那么那么地想着欣！
终于，男孩等到了归途的火车，不过，他想：在这剩余的两天，我一定要好好把握，我不求什么，只想认识这位可爱的女生--欣！
在一次午饭后，男孩在同学们的怂恿下，硬着头皮，红着脸去找欣，在内心磨蹭下：梁铭欣同学，我觉得你人品很好，又天真可爱，我很喜欢你，你能和我交个朋友吗？……
当时，也许男孩太心急，太冲动，什么都说了，欣却不认为他在说内心话。没想到，平时好说好笑的欣结结巴巴地说：对不起，我不能和你交朋友！说玩就立刻转身走了！男孩足足愣了十几分钟，但他回去后也没说什么，他根本就没想到，自己最喜欢的女孩子会这样说，他也不知道接着该做些什么，或者什么也不用做，他迷惘了……
剩下在火车的时间，男孩也没有再去找女孩了！
多个月后的一个晚上，男孩再也忍不住思念欣的痛苦，他篡磨了很久，认为上次太唐突，再来向欣说一次。
他终于再次拨了号码……“嘀嘀嘀”，男孩的心情越来越紧张……通了……
梁铭欣，你好，还记得我吗？我是……其实，我没有别的要求，只是想和做很普通很普通的朋友，没另外的意思，你可以答应我吗……
呵呵——电话中传来甜甜的笑声，嗯，当然可以啦，我很乐意交朋友的……再见啦！3166……
意外的收获令男孩高兴得一蹦三尺高，他兴奋得连续几晚也睡不着！
但是，世上好景会有留给人们多久呢？男孩整天都在思念欣，想象她在笑时的样子……
一个星期六的晚上，欣说她和同学们要练舞蹈，叫男孩也去看看。男孩当然高兴死啦！刚洗完澡就赶去了，到达的时间还提前了许多，以为他想：既然大家是朋友，不能让她等我咯！短暂的十几分钟在男孩看来就想度日如年，他就在这些时间里想等会儿见到欣应该说些什么，但想来想去也不知道怎么才好？
欣来到了，男孩很高兴的笑着说：你来啦！
欣依然是那么大方，她把男孩领进屋里，很热情的招待了他，他们也说了好一阵，知道练习跳舞的人来了，男孩才依依不舍的离开！就是因为这次，欣竟在第3天后提出和那个男孩绝交！男孩也没话可说，也不想问究竟为什么会这样？或许，欣不喜欢他吧！男孩居然也不哭，只是伤心，后来由伤心变成一股动力……
男孩这样想：做不成朋友是我倒霉，但是，我要从此要发奋图强，让欣看看我要的是实际行动！
想不到，一次的失落竟让男孩的成绩大大提高，人品也比原来好很多了！看着自己实现了实际，暗暗高兴，
但是，另一边收来了不好的消息！原来一直很纯洁的欣，转学以后，加上校风不很好，她彻底地被腐蚀了。男孩很痛心，但因为中学学习紧张，他也没办法，也没见过欣了，真的不知道欣现在已经怎么样了？
她应该还好吧！身体怎么样？学习呢？心情愉快吧！
计算起来，男孩应该也有半年没见过欣了，他们的城市只有几平方公里呀，难道天就要捉弄人？男孩直到现在也没有爱过第二个女孩，他依然是疯狂地挂念着欣，永远也忘不了她！
（现实中真的有那么长情的男孩吗？基本上，我并不太相信。。毕竟，现实是残酷的。。）
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
To all my friends & my family~NAIL IN THE FENCE~
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence.
(Most importantly the last sentence)
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.
His Father gave him a bag of nails
and told him that every time he lost his temper,
he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.
Over the next few weeks,
as he learned to control his anger,
the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.
He discovered it was easier to hold his temper
than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came
when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it
and the father suggested that
the boy now pull out one nail for each day
that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed
and the young boy was finally able to tell his father
that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence
He said, "You have done well, my son,
but look at the holes in the fence.
The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger,
they leave a scar just like this one.
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.
It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry,
the wound is still there."
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
Friends are very rare jewels, indeed.
They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear,
they share words of praise
and they always want to open their hearts to us.'
It's National Friendship Week.
Show your friends how much you care.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!
Now send this to every friend you have!! And to your family.
Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.
(Most importantly the last sentence)
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.
His Father gave him a bag of nails
and told him that every time he lost his temper,
he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.
Over the next few weeks,
as he learned to control his anger,
the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.
He discovered it was easier to hold his temper
than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came
when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it
and the father suggested that
the boy now pull out one nail for each day
that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed
and the young boy was finally able to tell his father
that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence
He said, "You have done well, my son,
but look at the holes in the fence.
The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger,
they leave a scar just like this one.
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.
It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry,
the wound is still there."
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
Friends are very rare jewels, indeed.
They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.
They lend an ear,
they share words of praise
and they always want to open their hearts to us.'
It's National Friendship Week.
Show your friends how much you care.
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if
YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED!
Now send this to every friend you have!! And to your family.
Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.
Through a Rapiest's Eyes
This is important information for females of ALL ages.
Please pass it along...
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here","we're in for a bad winter". Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2.Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night. Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.
Please pass it along...
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here","we're in for a bad winter". Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2.Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night. Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.
Juz Something Funny
Why Chinese shouldn't have Christian names:
Anne Chang (Mandarin)-Dirty
Anne Chin (Mandarin) - Keep quiet
Faye Chen(Mandarin) - Dusty
Carl Cheng(Hokkien) - Buttock
Monica Cheng(Hokkien) - Touching your buttocks
Lucy Leow(Hokkien) - You are dead
Jane Tan(Mandarin) - Frying eggs
Suzie Leow(Hokkien) - Lost till death
Henry Mah(Mandarin) - Hate your mum
Corrine Tai (Hokkien) - Poor fellow
Paul Chan(Mandarin) - Bankrupt
Nelson Tan(Mandarin) - Bird laying eggs
Leslie Tong(Mandarin) - Rubbish bin
Carmen Teng (Hokkien) - Leg hair long
Connie Mah(Cantonese) - Call your mother
Danny See(Hokkien) - Squeeze you to death
Rosie Teng (Hokkien) - Screws and nails
Pete Tsai(Hokkien) - Nose droppings
Macy Koh(Cantonese) - Never die before
Give some comment on this arh!!~
Anne Chang (Mandarin)-Dirty
Anne Chin (Mandarin) - Keep quiet
Faye Chen(Mandarin) - Dusty
Carl Cheng(Hokkien) - Buttock
Monica Cheng(Hokkien) - Touching your buttocks
Lucy Leow(Hokkien) - You are dead
Jane Tan(Mandarin) - Frying eggs
Suzie Leow(Hokkien) - Lost till death
Henry Mah(Mandarin) - Hate your mum
Corrine Tai (Hokkien) - Poor fellow
Paul Chan(Mandarin) - Bankrupt
Nelson Tan(Mandarin) - Bird laying eggs
Leslie Tong(Mandarin) - Rubbish bin
Carmen Teng (Hokkien) - Leg hair long
Connie Mah(Cantonese) - Call your mother
Danny See(Hokkien) - Squeeze you to death
Rosie Teng (Hokkien) - Screws and nails
Pete Tsai(Hokkien) - Nose droppings
Macy Koh(Cantonese) - Never die before
Give some comment on this arh!!~
Sunday, July 13, 2008
""法国情侣 + 香港情侣 + 内地情侣""
Sunday, July 13, 2008
〈转载〉
法国......
巴黎很浪漫的露天 coffee shop，有对法国情侣。那男生一直盯著女生看，看到那女生不好意思脸都红起来了，
忽然间！男生很正经地跟她讲：「你爸爸是不是当小偷的？」
「不是啊！我爸爸是当员警的，为什这样问啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸爸不是当小偷，他怎么能够把天上的星星，摘下来放在你的眼睛里呢！」
香港……
有个学生，听完这个以后，觉得极正，回去马上就照著做……
他去找他女朋友，一直看著她一直看著她，
看了那女孩子很不好意思，忽然间他冒出一句话：
「你爸爸是不是做建筑的？」
「你为什么说我爸爸是做建筑的，我爸公务员啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸爸不是做建筑的，怎么能够把飞机场建在你的胸上呢！」
内地......
有个混旦，听完这个以后，又觉得极正，回去马上就照著做……
他去找他女朋友，一直看著她一直看著她，
看了那女孩子很不好意思，忽然间他冒出一句话：
「你爸爸是不是厨师？」
「你为什么说我爸爸是厨师，我爸是拳师啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸不是厨师，怎么能够培育出一块猪扒呢！」
法国......
巴黎很浪漫的露天 coffee shop，有对法国情侣。那男生一直盯著女生看，看到那女生不好意思脸都红起来了，
忽然间！男生很正经地跟她讲：「你爸爸是不是当小偷的？」
「不是啊！我爸爸是当员警的，为什这样问啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸爸不是当小偷，他怎么能够把天上的星星，摘下来放在你的眼睛里呢！」
香港……
有个学生，听完这个以后，觉得极正，回去马上就照著做……
他去找他女朋友，一直看著她一直看著她，
看了那女孩子很不好意思，忽然间他冒出一句话：
「你爸爸是不是做建筑的？」
「你为什么说我爸爸是做建筑的，我爸公务员啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸爸不是做建筑的，怎么能够把飞机场建在你的胸上呢！」
内地......
有个混旦，听完这个以后，又觉得极正，回去马上就照著做……
他去找他女朋友，一直看著她一直看著她，
看了那女孩子很不好意思，忽然间他冒出一句话：
「你爸爸是不是厨师？」
「你为什么说我爸爸是厨师，我爸是拳师啊！」
「奇怪，如果你爸不是厨师，怎么能够培育出一块猪扒呢！」
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